What I know for sure
I recently read the book ‘What I know for sure’ by Oprah which is partly based on her weekly Newspaper column of the same title. It got me thinking about what I know for sure in my life – short life so far – and I thought I’d make a list of what I know to be true for me.
What I know for sure:
• I will always love my brother and he will always love me regardless of what happens or where the years take us
• I will be an amazing mother. I will doubt myself later and second-guess my parenting decisions when my children are teenagers, but ultimately I will be an amazing mother to my children
• I will never regret money spent on travelling or new experiences, if they are choices I have made without undue pressure from others. These experiences have only enriched my life and I am sure will continue to do so
• The rules I made for myself and morals I held myself to when I was younger were useful at the time. Some of them are still decisions I continue to adhere to and guidelines I hold myself to. Others are not. Our standards and values change as we get older and that’s okay. I do not need to feel guilty for evolving from the ideals I had when I was younger.
• There are things in life that require closure. Unfortunately, we may not always receive it. In time I must move forward anyway. There are some questions that may always be unanswered and doors always half open and I will just have to accept that.
• Regardless of what I believe love is or what it feels like, I will not experience what truly unconditional self-sacrificing love is until I have children. And I will probably be blown away by how my heart is tied to them.
• My family will always be there for me and love me no matter what. It may take them some time to understand my decisions and choices at times but eventually they will come around.
• Global warming, terrorism and poverty are happening whether we choose to see it or not. It is better to open our eyes to the problems we face in the world than bury our heads in the sand.
• I will always love to read and write because it feeds my soul and I will squeeze out little pockets of time to write because I need it to feel emotionally and mentally fulfilled.
• There are books, places, music and art that will always remind me of people I have loved over the course of my life. It is more beneficial to my emotional health to see them as a gift, a remnant of what as, a token from time to be grateful for rather than memories to grieve over. I need to cultivate an attitude of gratitude.